The irony of Motherhood

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A Journey together… (Mother and Child)

Sharing with you once again my artwork inspired by my “Mother and Child “series. This one is done in 36 x 48 cm, watercolor paper, in artist grade inks and paints. If you’re interested for purchase, just drop me an email at justbluedutch@gmail.com.

The Irony of Motherhood

To be honest, I’m just winging it. Life, motherhood, and my paints. Everything.

Here in Germany along with many parts of the world, this coming Sunday ( May 14) is  Mother’s Day (or Muttertag) is being celebrated. This would be my 2nd time to celebrate this day as a mother and I feel honored to experience this. While motherhood is a 24/7 lifestyle, I just thought that maybe I reflect on some of the Irony of my own life.Have a read if you have time, and if you agree, you can leave some comments !

Ok, so why am I always cleaning? I need to finish this post within half an hour  or else it will be stuck in my 100+ drafts…maybe forgotten soon, because I still  need to clean up the mess, pick up toys,etc., seems like nothing stays clean as usual.

Did I mention before that when I say No, NO! Nein! It’s sure she understands YES, Oh yes Mama! And there she goes…

Before, staying up until 2AM is peanuts.I can still go to work at 7 am and still  feeling good. Now, I am utterly exhausted every time. All the time. Hitting the bed at 9PM is a luxury. Sometimes I think I should consult a doctor why this back pain never goes away! Now I understand what ‘different kind of tiredness” mothers have…can you relate?

I spent countless times searching  and creating  healthy toddler dishes. I go crazy looking for Chia seeds and that elusive Kale in the fresh markets, but my child only knows, Hagelslag, Spring rolls, blueberries, and bread.  Anything foreign looking food especially ‘green ones ‘ will be seen on the floor .

Sleep? What is it? how does it feel to sleep for a straight  8- hours? I totally forgot. Maybe because I am too sleepy… yes even now, yawns *

I don’t know about you but half an hour spent in a grocery shop seems like a lifetime. I can’t wait to be in the check-out counter especially when there is a raging storm of a whining, screaming kid trying to create a havoc in the line to the cashier.Thank God there’s gummy bears!

My two-year old still lives in diaper and onesies, but why is it that I have tons of laundry to do everyday? Laundry seems like an endless chore!

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Motherhood : A journey together

Pre-baby, I only know Mickey mouse . Now, I have never known so much nursery rhymes, cartoon characters and lullabies, after I had a child where I need to sing the whole playlist before bedtime.Everyday.On demand.

Can somebody please give me the formula of how to put your child to bed in 5 minutes?Do you think 2 hours is normal?

My favorite cardio-exercise : Running after my child in the playground and push the stroller.

I spent hours to choose cute outfits for my daughter but the moment she runs into the park, she rolls over in the sand, gravel and grass as if she is adoring mother earth!

Babies are often called bundles of joy. They are, in fact, bundles of screaming diarrhea, or a gooey  goo, a puke, or  pee. I can even smell it from a distance!

Motherhood is a whole lot of ‘fun’ than you think. It is more than cuddles and cuteness overload. It’s a whole Lotta ‘Hardwork’as well!

Why is it that she keeps on uttering “Oh no… Oh no…” she has her own way of getting what she wants.Terrible two’s…

Anyways, what is the common thing that painting and babies have in common?

They are both messy.

They are both hard to handle.

They are both time-consuming and energy-zapping.

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But then, just like any masterpiece, being a mother involves  real, hard , long hours of labor.There is no such thing as instant work -of-art. Motherhood is like a vicious artwork. Creativity comes with pain, ironic and delusional ideas.

But the moment your kid comes to you and in a tiny, squeaking voice says “Mama, hug you… ( she means she wants to hug me ) and tries to squeeze herself into my arms…I just wanna freeze the time.

She have this look on her face that I can’t handle. She can be so sweet, yet so annoying.

What else can you say?  or do?

I can’t explain what I am feeling when I am hearing her voice. It is just pure bliss. This time, no kidding, but these ironic blues turns into an artful moments.Sort of.

 Disclaimer : If you don’t have kids, single and have never had a child in your whole life, let alone never stayed up all night when your child is sick then you might find this post  totally unrelatable…I was once this type of person. I look in dismay once I see a mother with crying and screaming kids,  thinking “how can she not control her kid?” How could she?

Now I know how must she have felt. Now I know and just smiled…I wanted to give her a hug and say “I feel you”…

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Happy Mother’s Day ! (Aquarelle painting //justbluedutchArt)

I guess, you can never know the feeling of a mother, either being a stay-at-home parent or a full-time working Mom, not unless you become one. That’s the irony.

To all the sweet Mamas out there, here’s a cheer for you: You are remarkable!

 

 

Artwork : Mothers of Daughters

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Mothers of Daughters original painting (36 cm X 48 cm aquarelle // justbluedutchArt)

“Kids make life the best kind of busy… “

This artwork is inspired by my current 24/7 lifestyle  : being a mother, one of Mothers of Daughters series of paintings.

Nobody warns me that being a parent can be tough.Most of my friends have a teenager by this time and they are through with the long and winding road of raising tiny toddlers.The thing is, parenting  has no day off, it has no monetary appraisal. It doesn’t come with a job description, I can’t resign, nor I can’t slack off.  Pre-baby, there has been no apprenticeship. No on-the-job training.

Motherhood is  a l-i-f-e 24/7.

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Mothers of Daughters ( Aquarelle original painting )

One of the subjects I love to work on in my artwork is doing my  version of a Mother & Child painting.  I love things that resonates life and something that I could relate into. I am not that good (yet!) , I am still a work-in-process on both fields– being a mother and as a visual artist. I don’t even think that my artwork could get attention from others who are far by better than what I am doing. But I am truly humbled whenever I get compliments. I still have a lot of things to learn. Everyday as I play with my brush and colors, I discover techniques that works best with the result that I wanted to achieve. Sometimes it becomes a lot of mess, disappointments, my fingers hurt and my mind gets tired. But then, I don’t quit. I continue to create the thoughts in my mind into images.

Same goes with motherhood & parenting, everyday, I am faced with challenges, but there’s no turning back. I know that having a toddler is just a temporary stage, that soon she will be independent on her own, and that I, have my own life to tend too.

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Mothers of Daughters ( JustbluedutchArt)

It is not easy being an Expat Mother.

There are times I feel isolated and it’s a real challenge to live independently, without your immediate family and relatives to ask for support, especially my mother.We only rely on online chats and messenger the most. It’s our lifeline for being separated miles apart. I have learned to act upon instincts and be strong. For about 9 months now, I am glad that I have found new friends here in Germany , ( and they are all wonderful!) and that my daughter is doing well. She had precious milestones lately that really took us by surprise! It’s just great to be able to break the language barrier and felt that I belong here now,  although still I feel not totally 100% at home, but at least I don’t feel like a visiting tourist.

Yes, mothers of daughters are something special to me.

 

The great thing is— I need to remind myself  that apart from being a mother, I am still a person, woman, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. My life doesn’t end the moment my kid came into my life and Yes– I am capable in other fields in life too.

If you don’t have a child, then this post might not interest you. Or you are still single and  you can’t relate to this post, or you’re through with having babies and that you’ve passed this stage already.You are through with raising kids. But for someone who have high hopes of having a child someday, I hope someday you experience the joy that I am having now while raising my tiny human and not so much of the sacrifices that goes with it. It may not be the most comfortable lifestyle, but soon, this stage will pass.

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 If ever I would raise a child again ( not that I am hoping for a 2nd! ), but what If I have the chance to re-do the Parenting process, what about then?

What would I do ;

“I’ll build self-esteem first and tidy up the mess later “

“I’d finger-paint more and point the finger less “

“I would do less correcting and more connecting “

“I’d take  my eyes off my watch and watch with my eyes “

“I would care to know less and know to care more “

“I’d take more hikes and walks with her “

“I’d stop playing serious and seriously play “

“I would run through more fields, jump in muddy puddles, and gaze at more stars”

“I’d do more hugging and kissing and less tugging “

“I would be firm less often and affirm much more “

“I’d model less about the love of power and more about the power of Love “

One question for you, what would you do if you’ve given a chance to raise your children once again?

Any thoughts ?

Also, let me have your opinion about this artwork. I really  appreciate  comments and feedback so much.

If you’d like to see more of my artworks, you can check it out Here or follow JustbluedutchArt in Instagram.